As you may have guessed from the title, I am currently studying (well, avoiding studying) for my French exam. However, after what may have been a slight misunderstanding recently, I thought it would be fun to define the different levels of love/romantic interest. As I see them, anyway. Please note that these range from least amount of romantic interest (1) to highest amount of romantic interest (5).
Level 1 - The Eye Candy
This is probably someone you've never spoken to. But when you walk into class and see him lounging in his seat, wearing a charming grin as he flirts with the swooning girl behind him, you have to actively concentrate on not openly drooling. It also takes great mental effort not to stare at his beautiful eyes all through class, or get distracted when he turns around to talk to someone. However, your interest in this guy does not extend beyond imagining what you would do if you were locked in a closet with him i.e. you do not want a relationship. You just want him.
Level 2 - The guy you "like"
One step up from the Eye Candy, this guy you have actually had conversations with. Maybe you've drunkenly hooked up or a friend has introduced you. However you may have met, you find this guy to be interesting, cute and a potential great friend. Would you date him? Meh, maybe if you had no other options. This emotions may, over time, develop into Level 3 feelings but it may also simply fade before you see him again. Only time can tell.
Level 3 - The Crush
Perhaps you've developed feelings for a close friend, or maybe you really click with the guy in your Latin class (cough). You find yourself thinking about him a lot and wanting to spend time with him. You strike up conversations at every opportunity; you sms him when you find a funny picture or joke that you know he'll like; you look forward to going to lectures/the library/the Kaif just because you know that you might see him there. You imagine what it would be like to be in a relationship with him. Often, you may avoid him on your nights out because a) you don't want him to be just a once-off hookup and b) NO-ONE looks their best while drunk. No matter how pretty you may have been when the night began.
Level 4 - Relationship-in-waiting
You hook up. You spend every waking moment together. He sends you cute smses and you hold hands while cuddling and watching movies. What's the problem? "It's not Facebook official." Come on, we're all adults here. If you've talked about taking it slow then hey, that's fine. At least you've discussed where your relationship is going. But if you're being the nauseatingly cute couple while insisting that you're not actually 'a couple', please get over it. We all know that you're together. Stop trying to fool yourself.
Level 5 - Boyfriend/Girlfriend
So it's finally on Facebook and you're officially referring to each other as your boyfriend/girlfriend/soul mate. I'm happy for you :). There's not much to say about this one as it seems fairly self-explanatory. But if you've only been dating for two weeks, maybe hold off on the wedding talk. He'll still be marvelling at the fact that a girl is actually willing to hook up with him on a regular basis; he doesn't want to start picking china patterns and naming your kids just yet.
I would just like to point out that random hookups, unrequited admirers and "fun-buddies" (see, Caroline? I'm using your terms :P ) have not been added to this list. Why? Um, because they're not worth romantic interest, that's why. Don't feel the need to push yourself into a relationship with the guy just because he's into you or you had one drunken hookup. And if you're the type of person who can handle casual sex, then keep your fun-buddy that way. Romance tends to complicate things; don't start imagining feelings where none are present. Trust me, I have been down that road before and it only leads to broken hearts (his, not yours). Have your fun, but remember...play nice.
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